I recently have become friendly with Frank Britt. He believes you can write and change your “life story.” I think it is a powerful point of view. He recently wrote about that, and an important career decision, here.
Specifically, Frank decided to leave a very prestigious job to be the CEO of an online education company that empowers people. He really believes in the mission of the company.
Moreover, he adds in an email to me:
The most dangerous narratives are ones that diminish our inherent worthiness; we are seeking to advocate, empower, and enable folks to reclaim the truth and eradicate limiting beliefs about themselves (their pedigree, network, IQ, body, relationships, their privilege, etc). Many of these are what I call disempowering beliefs – they limit your perceived choices. The reality is that the past does not equal the future, and zip code or background is not destiny, and all personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs.
I think it is critical that we all realize that we have the power to choose and alter our perspectives. It often isn’t easy particularly if you’ve had a tough childhood or are in the midst of a streak of bad luck.
As a Board member on many companies, I can promise you that many talented, smart, honest and good looking people feel like frauds. They feel like they’re not worthy. To an outsider, it will look almost absurd. They have “everything,” but on some days seem not to realize it.
I would encourage everyone to think about the story you’re writing about yourself. Is it positive or negative? Is it empowering or discouraging? Are you in charge or a victim?
Change your life story, and I believe that you’ll change your life’s arc.