A bit ago, I put into my Twitter and LinkedIn profiles that I am “a recovering ENTJ.” It’s a bit of a joke but there’s a serious point behind it all.
I’m a huge fan of the Myers-Briggs personality framework and questionnaire (more here). When I first learned about it at b-school, I was struck by how accurately it seemed to describe me.
But, I also realize that each Myers-Briggs personality type has both strengths and weaknesses. Yes, I tend to be organized, driven, and outbound-oriented, but I also can be impatient and unsympathetic. I can prize efficiency over empathy.
So, I try to be mindful of both. And, I try to remind myself of my tendencies every day.
Each personality type has strengths and weaknesses. I often say that people are like two-sided coins: traits that lead to their greatest strengths also lead to their greatest weaknesses. In fact, I would argue that what you love most about your Significant Other leads to what you like least about that person. Both sides come as a package. You cannot have one without the other. Both sides are part of the same coin.
I think understanding, and accepting, that phenomenon is the key to long-term relationships. And, being more empathetic with yourself.