I recently had a conversation with someone going through a “life reboot.”
There are moments in life that are crossroads: changing jobs, ending a long-term relationship, moving, a spiritual epiphany, ending old habits, the death of a loved one, etc. I’ve written in the past about crossroads.
IMO, however, I think certain crossroads involve a huge number of changes happening all at once. And, I think of those moments as “reboots.” They’re an order of magnitude more profound and life-changing than a crossroad. When you have a huge number of changes happening at once, it leads to a long set of highly personal and existential questions. And, you do not emerge from a reboot the same person.
I’ve had a two reboots in my life. A year out of college, I ended an unhealthy relationship, quit my dehumanizing investment banking job, moved out of NYC, and started to invest in my spiritual life. After my mother and brother-in-law died, I entered a gradual reboot period that persisted for years, which resulted in deciding to be an entrepreneur and starting Kepha.
So, a friend of mine is right now in a reboot. And, I’m having a hard time giving any advice. Every reboot is so unique and every person is unique. So, glib advice is hard to find, at least, for me.
I think I can be a good friend and listen and empathize. I think I can share what worked for me.
So, this post is really about starting a dialogue. How do you advise a friend going through a reboot?
I’d really like to know.