Yes, that’s right. I’m writing about casual sex. Let me explain.
I subscribe to some podcasts, and, on the way to a Board meeting, listened to NPR’s Hidden Brain. The host interviewed a sociologist, Lisa Wade, who has undertaken a great deal of research into the college hookup scene. She wrote a book called American Hookup.
It’s a very interesting podcast in that it explodes some myths about the hookup culture. The first is that college students today are not more promiscuous than their parents’ generation. The second is that many students completely opt out of hookup culture.
Moreover, the podcast also articulates how the rules of hookup culture leave a good majority of its participants feeling pretty used and empty. As noted in a recent article about the book (here), here’s a glimpse:
American Hookup breaks the hookup into eight distinct stages, all of which involve troubling amounts of alcohol, and with an end game of proving to everyone that the encounter was meaningless. Wade asks, “How do two people establish that an intimate moment between them wasn’t meaningful?” In three ways: by being or pretending to have been inebriated, only hooking up with someone once, and the most destructive way, by creating emotional distance through cold bordering-on-cruel behavior towards the other person.
You can listen to the podcast by clicking on the embedded player up top, or by downloading it here. As a father, it was a good use of time to listen to it.